A Very Merry Un-anniversary to me!

I know this is a strange topic, but truly it is a blessing!

As I looked at the calendar today I realized that the day that would have been my anniversary had passed without one tear being shed this year!!!!!

My ex and I were married on December 5, 1992 and so the Christmas season has been really hard for the past 4 years. When you are married in December everyone gives you Christmas decorations. When you’re married these gifts are sweet and lovely, but when you're divorced they are memories of what was and is not now. So, the first Christmas I got rid of all tree trimmings and decorations and the kids and I made all new ones. We had a blast that first year and it is now a tradition we all love! However, even after getting rid of the "things" the 5th day of December was still on the calendar and it would be a reminder of all the hurt and that my life was not what I thought it would be. Last year I decided that I would not mourn on December 5th again, that I would make it a day of celebration...somehow.

And so, I celebrate this year as planned! Not because I planned a party, but because God gave me the gift of not remembering!

After I realized the day had come and gone without notice, I could see in my mind the scene from Alice in Wonderland where the Mad Hatter and the Hare are singing "A Very Merry Un-birthday to you!" Since there are many days I feel like a mad hatter...I think I can sing, "A Very Merry Un-anniversary to me!

Thanks be to God for the good He has done in me!

Love to you all,
Melissa

Alice in Wonderland's "A Very Merry Un-birthday to you!"
www.youtube.com/watch?v=RdsZT7WKjW8